To be magnetic you don't have to be
• charming
• witty
• attractive
8 habits ANYONE can use to instantly build charisma:
🔸 Be yourself and own it
This isn't just about confidence. Charismatic people are next-level comfortable in their skin.
People love originality. They crave to be themselves too. They love seeing you set an example. So just go for it.
🔸 Show interest
Being Interest-ed isn't the same as being interest-ing.
To be charismatic you must be present for others. Listen closely. React. Ask questions.
(The inverse is also true. Nobody likes it when you're trying-too-hard.)
🔸 Be generous with your time
Be selfless and give to others. They'll love you for it.
It sounds counterintuitive, but focusing on others has an effect of drawing them to you.
🔸 Tell more stories
Stories create human connection, especially when told from the heart.
You might be in them, but not all your stories should be about you.
And when they are self-centered, they shouldn't be just to boast.
🔸 Be mindful your body
You communicate as much with your body as with your words. Smile more. Don't slouch or turn away.
Gesture. Let your wide hand movements fill the room.
Use eye contact readily. Be undeterred by the intimacy it brings.
🔸 Give away all the credit
Others' accomplishments don't hold you back. So champion them.
Celebrate wins and acknowledge the people who made them possible.
Charismatic people make a habit of lifting up those around them.
🔸 Take the blame
Even as you pass along the credit, you take responsibility when the time comes.
You're strong. Use your strength to shelter peers from negativity, but also work with them to fix problems and improve.
🔸 Spread optimism
Positivity is the difference between hard work and a slog.
Find joy anywhere it can be found. Focus on the good. Share your fun with others.
Don't deceived yourself that ultra-likable people have a charisma gene that they were born with.
Social science shows us that likability is the result of habits, behaviors, and skills as much as anything else.
Focus on being mindful of yourself, and being a good person.
8 habits anyone can use to instantly build charisma:
🔸 Show interest
🔸 Be generous with your time
🔸 Tell more stories
🔸 Be yourself and own it
🔸 Be mindful of your body
🔸 Give away all the credit
🔸 Take the blame
🔸 Spread optimism