Embrace Your Lonely Chapter

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"Every single person who wants to do something and has done something with their life has gone through the exact chapter that you're going through - 'The Lonely Chapter'." Perhaps you're in yours... I had one too; embrace it. What is 'The Lonely Chapter'? 👇

The 'Lonely Chapter' is a transitional phase, a sign that change is on the horizon. It's a period when you're caught between a life you no longer want and the life you're ready to embrace. This is a time of potential when a new, more fulfilling life is within reach....

But you're not there yet... - You don't have the clarity of mind to know what you're working towards - You don't have the outcomes to fit into a new group - You don't have the skills to succeed in the new space you're venturing into - You don't have the proof of progress

As a result, your motivation is highly inconsistent With no signs of success, you're questioning if it is worth it, constantly called back to the previous life of comfort & predictability, where friends & family know you and your skills match the requirements to 'succeed.'

It's a dichotomy... and your best opportunity to create the next you Caught between two identities, you can create a new one that fits who you want to be, not taking a specific identity of either or anyone... If this sounds familiar, here are my tips:

1️⃣ Choose the Lonely Chapter There's a difference between being alone and being lonely You can be alone but not lonely You can be lonely but not alone When you bring attention to this, you take control of your emotions and have the power.

Sometimes, the loneliest moments are found in a crowd Knowing you're amongst friends and feeling alone can be the most isolating feeling Once you choose The Lonely Chapter, you realise it's part of your growth and a stage to embrace and enjoy instead of bathing in sadness

2️⃣ Make clarity your priority Once you know where you're heading, the unpredictable levels of motivation become the waves of change rather than scary stops and starts. Be highly specific about your goals and intentions - only you can do this and know what you want.

3️⃣ Acquire the skills by trial and error Amass the skills required for the next phase by trial and error Don't work in silence; try things in public - public trial (and failure) helps with accountability and consistency

4️⃣ Find role models, then become your own Discover people who have done what you want Work out how they did it & what skills they acquired Then, use your Clarity 2️⃣ to become your own role model Keep reminding yourself of your vision as "we become what we think about"

5️⃣ Accept & embrace your peculiarities to become exceptional Life is a long journey of self-acceptance The earlier you can accept your own peculiarities as part of you, rather than trying to justify them, the faster you get where you want to go...

You can not do what everyone else has done and expect NOT to get what everyone else has got It all comes down to valuing your opinion of yourself more than other people's opinion of you... Be weird, be different, be exceptional

Though more retrospectively, this theory has certainly helped me make sense of my phases of transition and likely will provide comfort in any future transitional era Check out the full video here (if you like this, follow @ChrisWillx + @AlexHormozi) youtu.be/CJhoEft7Wm8?si=ydBWegyC7nDKHwq