This summer, @theeverymom published an article that really concerned me as a mom who was homeschooled K-12. 1/33
theeverymom.com/reasons-to-homeschool/
The author of the article, a woman with a master’s degree and a flexible work from home job, prefaces the article with a flurry of caveats. The reasons she cites, however, are deeply problematic. 2/33
As homeschooled alumni know, most articles about homeschooling are written by or about parents who weren't homeschooled themselves. It’s discouraging, especially when parents cite NHERI and alleged child abuser Brian Ray’s work. 3/33
rlstollar.com/2023/02/12/my-parents-abused-me-an-interview-with-hallie-ray-ziebert/
I reached out to @TheEverymom and pitched a piece on why I public school as a homeschool alumna, but it was crickets. So here’s my response to that article in thread form. 4/33
I was homeschooled from kindergarten through 12th grade. While my experience in an ultra-conservative Christian family is not the experience of all homeschoolers, it is essential that we listen to the voices of children who were homeschooled. 5/33
Most articles about homeschooling prioritize the parents and do not consider the children’s perspectives, thereby exacerbating the power imbalance in homeschooling narratives. 6/33
There is unfortunately a lack of robust data on homeschooling outcomes; most studies of homeschooling rely on volunteer participants that are not representative of homeschooling as a whole. And even these studies’ findings are frequently misrepresented or misunderstood. 7/33
This makes it all the more important to listen to people who were homeschooled as children. The recent #dayofthehomeschooledchild hashtag on Twitter is a great way for parents who homeschool or are considering homeschooling to learn more from homeschooled alumni. 8/33
While everyone’s experience is unique, here are some reasons that I have chosen to send my son to public school. 9/33
1. Academic Success
I have an MLIS, but I'm not qualified to teach my son about most things, especially as he gets older. I don’t have degrees in child ed. and I don’t do regular professional development. I want my child to learn from people who are trained to teach. 10/33
I am committed to my child’s academic success, but because of the large gaps in my homeschool education, I could easily commit educational neglect out of ignorance. Educational neglect is a serious problem in homeschooling, and results in adults unaware of what they don’t know.
I want my son to have access to sports, music, and other extracurricular group activities. While homeschool coops can offer some opportunities for group activities, they are usually dependent on expertise and volunteer time from parents. 12/33
2. Mental Health
I believe that public schooling can deliver mental health benefits. Why? Because he and I both benefit from not staying home together all day. 13/33
My son gets to establish his own identity away from me and the home, and I get to maintain a professional identity that isn’t solely “Mom.” I want my son to develop relationships with adult role models that are not dependent on me. 14/33
Children experience bullying and other mental health challenges at public school. But homeschooled children can also experience bullying from siblings and neglect from parents; when this occurs, the isolation and lack of any support external to the family can compound harm. 15/33
3. Diverse Community
The first time that I substantially interacted with a non-white person was in my freshman year of college. Growing up in my homeschool community, the only people I saw were other white fundamentalist Christians. 16/33
My parents intentionally limited my exposure to the people I interacted with on a day-to-day basis and that isolation stunted my development. I don’t want my son’s access to other children and adults dictated by my transportation or scheduling limitations. 17/33
I love the fact that my son is one of the only white children in his classroom. I want him to grow up surrounded by diversity. I want his teachers to share different backgrounds and experiences with him. I want him to appreciate a diversity of religious expressions. 18/33
3. Safety
Every time there is a school shooting, homeschool proponents claim that homeschooling is the safer option for children. 19/33
Unfortunately, most states do not provide the kind of structure and accountability necessary to make homeschooling safe. I support laws and other educational policies that protect vulnerable children from abuse and educational neglect. 20/33
hsinvisiblechildren.org
In 48 states, it is legal for a person convicted of child sexual abuse to homeschool their children. 21/33
responsiblehomeschooling.org/research/current-policy/protections-for-at-risk-children/
I may be confident of my ability to keep my child safe at home, but what about the other parents in homeschool coops, where it is rare to find any kind of safeguarding training or policies? 22/33
I know all too well what happens when abuse occurs within a homeschool coop, and no one is required to report it. I prefer to have my son go to school with mandated reporters who are required to pass background checks and other screening measures. 23/33
I was homeschooled in New York State. New York’s homeschool laws are more robust than many in the country. 24/33
responsiblehomeschooling.org/state-by-state/new-york/
For example, parents must submit individualized instruction plans and quarterly reports to their local school district—but they still leave space for educational neglect and other serious forms of abuse by homeschooling parents. 25/33
rimaregas.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/01/Knox-Torture-as-a-Form-of-Child-Abuse-article.pdf
I currently live in Wisconsin, which only requires parents to file a notice with the state and complete 875 hours of instruction per year. 26/33
responsiblehomeschooling.org/wisconsin/
There is no way for Wisconsin to ascertain if parents are actually providing those 875 hours of instruction or otherwise providing for their children. All of our children deserve a safe and robust educational environment. And for me, that means a public school. 27/33
4. Preparation for Adult Life
I want my son to develop confidence and independence for his adult life. After graduating from 12 years of homeschooling, I floundered in my first year of college. 28/33
I wasn’t used to the routines and expectations for college and work life. Hard deadlines were foreign to me. My son will learn how school works and be more prepared for college than I was. 29/33
I want my son to see me working outside the home. While some parents are privileged to work from home, many homeschooling families reinforce gender stereotypes by relying on a stay-at-home-mom to teach their children. 30/33
Research shows that children who see their moms working are more likely to exhibit egalitarian beliefs as adults. 31/33
journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0950017018760167
Children deserve access to diverse ways of thinking, knowing, and believing. While public school is not the only way for children to access these things, my experience as a homeschool alumna leads me to believe it’s the best option for my child. 32/33
If you are homeschooling your children, please check out the @ResponsibleHS to learn how you can promote safe homeschooling in your community. 33/33