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“Carla” alleges that CFC’s patriarchal teachings set her up for sexual assault. She alleges that her parents’ response to her assault was to blame her instead of her abuser.
cfctoo.com/stories/carlas-story
"CFC impressed upon us from a young age that women needed to submit to the men in their life to do God's will. Specifically, women were under their father's authority until they were married and then they were under their husband's authority.
I had such a twisted perspective of my autonomy that I had a hard time asserting myself and terrible men seemed to sense the weakness.
I was assaulted twice. One of my abusers claimed to be a Christian. When I told my parents, they asked what I was wearing when it happened, because I must have been dressed immodestly.
When I told one of my non-Christian college friends, her eyes teared up and she told me that I didn't deserve it and then asked me if I wanted a hug. We hugged and I cried.
In that moment, I was seen and not judged. It was the first time I felt sincere compassion."
"I know many who left CFC but were able to hold onto their Christianity. I can't say the same. It's taken me years to heal from that place and in my journey I gave up my faith.
Many will never understand, but the Bible was weaponized against me all through my childhood by CFC and by my parents. If you've been beaten into submission by the Bible your whole life, it’s sometimes just not possible to look at God as a loving Father."